Being an introvert

Being an introvert is not easy. It’s not easy because the world doesn’t make it seem easy or at least we think so.

Remember that day when someone looked at you with a pity, that day when someone taunted you for staying away from crowd. And how can you forget your school days? How many times people made you realise that you have a problem, you won’t be able to do anything in life because you are anti-social.

Sounds familiar??? 

Yes!!

Then probably you are an introvert or someone who crossed your mind while reading this is an introvert.

But to all the introverts out there, I tell you what… You are not abnormal, you are not rude, you are not anti-social and most important you are no less special.


Being the way you are is absolutely alright. You do not need to be like everyone else to be happy and successful. You need to be just like you to be happy. If spending time alone rejuvenates you then that’s okay. There’s nothing wrong with that. At the end, everyone is looking for peace and happiness whether its in a temple, in a bar or in solitude. As long as you don’t hurt someone, it’s okay to be who you are.

Always remember that you are special in your own way.

Roses are special because it gives pleasure to eyes, is aromatic and has other specialities as well. But does that make rice less important??

No..

Both are special in their own ways.

We live in a world where being loud or extrovert is seen as desirable and trendy. It’s because extroverts show what they have and in many cases even what they don’t have. But introverts don’t. They don’t like to be the centre of attention.

But like the saying goes, “Jo dikhta hai, wo hi bikta hai”(whatever gets seen, gets sold too)

Extroverts are loud, outgoing and gets energised by crowds. Whereas introverts are soft-spoken, thoughtful and often gets drained by crowds. This doesn’t mean that extroverts do not need alone time and introverts always need to be alone. Extroverts do need alone time but being like that for long exhausts them. For introverts it’s the opposite. They can go to a disco and enjoy but being there for long exhausts them. They need to rejuvenate by being in solitude.

As per research, extroverts and introverts brains function differently. We all have same amounts of dopamine in our brains. But the difference is that introverts are more sensitive to it and gets over-stimulated by it whereas extroverts are less sensitive to dopamine and needs more of it to be happy. That’s why introverts lose their energy while being in over-stimulated situations like crowd, party etc.

Well, I can go on and on telling what extroverts do and introverts don’t and vice-versa. But the main purpose of this article is to remind everyone that every one on this planet is special because they are unique and no one can be exactly the way they are.

To all the introverts out there, I would like to tell

  • You are very special
  • Don’t be harsh on yourself because you are made to think how you are is not how you are supposed to be
  • You matter a lot
  • You have a purpose and
  • You are not alone

Embrace your strengths. Thank god for every time you didn’t spit poison while speaking because you know how it feels. Be happy for all the things that gave you inner happiness. Look inwards like you always do. Find who you are and celebrate your passion. So many successful people in history were introverts. And in the present as well. You can google the names.

You have special talents. You could be an artist, a painter, a writer, a doctor and so much more. Being introvert is a blessing because we are thinkers and we don’t live the life others suggest. We look for inner happiness and spread the same. We are listeners and observers.

So, don’t get carried away when someone says you are dumb because you’re not. (Being loud is not equal to intelligent/happy).

Decorate your cover too when needed.

Confused??

People judge a book by it’s cover. Only those who read the book can see the true worth of it. But you can’t make everyone read the book. Few could be illiterate as well. So, when required make the cover attractive too 😃 (Just kidding)

Love to all 💕

Written truly by an introvert.

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Seli💕

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